Raise your hand if you’re married, thirty years old or above, trying to get pregnant, and SICK of people asking why you don’t have a baby yet?!
I’m sure there are plenty of us out here. Alright for the benefit of everyone out there, if you’re not particularly close to a person that matches the description above, do NOT bombard her with stuff like, “Hoy, mag-anak ka na, trenta ka na” or “May laman na ba?”
I understand that it’s getting quite to be a staple question and I guess I don’t mind you asking if you’re my friend or a close relative. I can always explain to you that we’ve been trying yes, but I’ve had an ectopic pregnancy before so I wasn’t allowed to get pregnant for a year, etc. Although, almost instantly when this happens, the air becomes a bit uncomfortable and the person sort of regrets asking. BUT, I can’t always explain this to every single person.
Another thing is, the person you might be asking might not want to share her personal details on why it’s become difficult to conceive. So, if you will absolutely keel over if you do not ask, just ask ONCE. No more follow up unsolicited advice and questions, unless the person who is trying to get pregnant wants to prolong the topic and openly discuss her situation.
I don’t mind sharing my TTC story because there may be women experiencing the same things and hopefully, might find a bit of useful things here.
Last year, we’ve sort of been trying. My OB had given us a go signal to try and I decided that I wanted to try naturally again, without the help of medications.
For several months, we used the calendar app method. No such luck. Then My awesome OB recommended me to buy Ovatel, which is a really neat microscope-like device that detects your fertile period through your saliva. I think it’s about Php 1,800 from Mercury drugstore. If it ferns, it means that you are ovulating. Now sometimes the images vary per women ovulating, as I found out after two months of usage. I needed to know how my ferns look like when I am ovulating so I decided to use it alongside ovulation sticks. Ovulation sticks are also accurate, however you’ll need to buy at least seven sticks to track your ovulation, whereas with Ovatel, it’s just a one time purchase and then unlimited use so it saves more money.
Armed with both an ovatel and ovulation sticks I was able to determine how my ferns look like and it turns out that even though it showed a few ferns I was already ovulating! So I most likely missed this before; I thought I wasn’t ovulating yet but I was! That way, I would be able to better identify my ovulation date the following month through ovatel alone.
I did not get the chance to try it again the following month because my prayers have been answered! I got pregnant!
I am now currently 20 weeks along. I’ll be sharing my first trimester to second trimester experience soon!